Change. Transformation. Transition.
Whatever one might call it, it's a word people use to describe something that
is no longer the way it is previously. It can be anything. The surrounding,
rules, society, people, or relationship. What cause it? There are many factors
which may interlink with each other’s. Changes in surrounding can change people
which in turn can change the society and so on. I bet anyone of us have heard
at least once from the people around us saying things have changed or perhaps
we said it ourselves.
Some changes happen because we make it
happen while others occur on their own, unconsciously to those affected by it.
And some people like the changes while others discourage it. I honestly don't really
fancy the idea of change be it in surroundings or relationship. But as we go
through life, as we grow up, things will inevitably change either gradually or
drastically. We can't deny the fact that we're changing too. We're one year
older with each new year that comes and we move from one grade to another. We
left school, we started college or we enter the work field.
Doesn't this mean change happens all
the time? It's like a pattern that repeats itself again and again. But it's a
random pattern that we don't know what form it's going to take every time it
changes. So, why we are still making a big deal over changes that occur around
us? Perhaps because we're still the same. Suddenly we don't get the jokes our
friends are making anymore, we don't get the conversation our family are having
over dinner and we don't get the temperament he's showing in the phone call at
night. Then everything drifts apart even before we know it. We stop hanging
out, we stop texting each other and we're left on our own.
That's when we concluded that the
other person has changed. Perhaps because that's the simplest logic to the
broken relationship. Or it's easier to think like that than putting the blame
on ourselves. But we forgot that change happen all the time. We're always
moving forward, as the clock ticking, we're leaving the seconds which already
became the past. We left our home, our school and our town. We went to separate
ways and live in different environment and spend our time with different
people.
I
realize then the me now is no longer the same me I see in the photograph taken
from my school's days. I feel like my hometown friends are becoming someone I
don't know, but so am I. But it doesn't feel like anything changes or we're
changing although we're miles apart because as we change together our
relationship is still as strong as before. Our relationship hasn't change. We
used to like the same songs but now we share different songs that we like with
each other and for that reason it seems like nothing change between us. Either
it is before or now, we're still listening to the same song. I learn to like
her favorite song and she learns to sing mine.
As I look closely at my friendship
with my friend, I realize it's not that none of us are changing. In fact, both
of us are changing, shifting our favorites and laugh at different jokes. But
what makes our relationship to stay is our effort to accept the changes and to
share it with one another. I'm glad I have a friend like her and I'm proud with
our friendship. I love you LPL..:)
So, if you feel like things or a person
is changing, don't be quick to point your finger at them. Remember you're
changing too even though you don't realize it. If you're really honest in your
relationship with them, it doesn't really matter who they were before and who
they're becoming now. It only matters what the relationship means to you and to
them. Take it as a challenge as though you're trying to know a new person if it
comes to that. May everyone be blessed in their relationships. ^^
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